“You can’t judge me.
I know who I am – A Powerful Woman.”
- TOXIC ENVIRONMENT
The environment we spend our time in contributes to our well-being and productivity. A toxic environment is destructive, unpleasant, and an energy drainer.
According to John Mark Green, “Toxic people attach themselves like cinder blocks tied to your ankles, and then invite you for a swim in their poisoned waters.”It is excruciating to work in a hostile environment. What is an acceptable way to tackle the issue? If you work in a poisonous environment, keep reading for your solution.
- TOXIC PEOPLE
Toxic People make their environment toxic; they fill the atmosphere with negativity. I remember a distant family member who swears, even when unnecessary and out of place. He would even swear around my kids. I warned him to stop, and he continued. So, I had to cut him off.
Toxic people are selfish and a real killjoy with no regard for others.
They are not aware of the crime they commit against others and how it impact their lives.
Toxic people don’t take the time to show gratitude and appreciate others. This is a significant factor in their behaviour. They appear clueless about the effects of their behaviour on others. They destroy good moments and drain the joy out of good people.
In a hostile environment, people might feel stressed, afraid, anxious, and depressed, especially if it’s the boss that’s toxic. After interacting with toxic people, you may find yourself crying at your desk, in the hallway or in your car. You might feel like quitting your job. It can be tough to leave your job because of the income your job provides.
- PERSONAL DEVELOPMENT
Focus on what you can control. For instance, filing a complaint to Human Resources might solve the problem. But if that fails, you must solve the problem from the inside out. Take action to solve your stress with personal development. Download 14 Ways To Decrease Stress.
- FORGIVE THEM
We must forgive those toxic people around us because they don’t know any better. Let go of the negative situation. This is not easy when they attack your character.
- REMEMBER YOUR WORTH
In a toxic environment, you must remember your self-worth. You are worthy. You are not trash, thus don’t believe people who put you down. Write down everything you are grateful for because of your work. For example, the friends you made at work.
Anne Landers has another great declaration. “Expect trouble as an inevitable part of life and repeat to yourself, the most comforting words of all; this, too, shall pass.”
- HAVE A CONVERSATION IF APPROPRIATE
If appropriate, inform the toxic people around us of their wrongdoings and let them know in a respectful way that what they are doing is terrible. Let them know how badly it affects us. When all fails, cut toxic people out of your life or plan to move to a more favourable situation. Download 14 Ways To Decrease Stress.
- GUARD YOUR MENTAL HEALTH
If you love your job, but the pressure is too much. It would be best if you had time away from work to maintain your self-worth and your sanity. You can’t always do this alone; it’s okay to ask for help. Access the employee assistance program that your workplace provides.
Guard your mental health while away from work, spend time working on self-improvement. Aristotle said, “knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” Build yourself up, listen to a motivational song that inspires you. I listen to Sia’s song, “Unstoppable.” This song reminds me of the power I have within me.
“If you have made mistakes, even serious mistakes, you may have a fresh start any moment you choose, for this thing we call “failure” is not the falling down, but the staying down.” —Mary Pickford.
- Don’t Let Them Steal Your Joy
When you return to work, they will try to destroy your self-worth, but this time you smile and say to yourself, “you can’t judge me. I know who I am – A Powerful Woman.” —Esmie Lawrence.
Remember, “Never sacrifice who you are, just because someone has a problem with it.” — Unknown Author
Please note that we cannot solve a toxic situation by being harsh or rude. “An eye for an eye leaves everybody blind.” —Martin Luther King couldn’t have said it any better. We cannot clean up a toxic environment with negativity.
Don’t Let Them Steal Your Joy, be positive and strong.
Always remember that you have a choice with the emotions you display in each moment. “Find joy in everything you choose to do. Every job, relationship, home… it’s your responsibility to love it, or change it.” —Chuck Palahniuk.
6 Key Takeaways:
- Develop Yourself
- Forgive Them
- Remember Your Self-Worth
- Have A Conversation if Appropriate
- Guard Your Mental Health
- Don’t Let Them Steal Your Joy
John Mark Green., Toxic People Quotes – Goodreads, Inc 2021; Available from: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/tag/toxic-people
Martin Luther King., Revenge Sayings and Quotes – Wise Sayings 2000-2021; Available from: https://www.wisesayings.com/revenge-quotes/#ixzz6k2w07VqK
Chuck Palahniuk., 15 Inspiring Quotes to Help You Find Joy – Success.com-2021; Available from: https://www.success.com/15-inspiring-quotes-to-help-you-find-joy/