In this episode, Esmie, Stephen and  Sonji discuss:

  • Stephen had a dysfunctional family, and his mother was mentally ill
  • Stephen was physically abused and dropped out of high school at an early age
  • Married four times, experienced bankruptcy and foreclosure
  • Sonji grew up in a loving and stable family environment
  • Stephen resented his mom
  • Challenges of co-parenting with different parenting styles
  • Sonji when through job displacement and felt inadequate

Key takeaways:

  • Many of the things that are limiting us today are things that were told to us as a child
  • Change your thinking, and you can change your life
  • In marriage, you must communicate and share your thoughts and feelings in a safe and calm environment
  • You cannot carry your baggage from a previous marriage into your present marriage
  • You can’t assume that your partner has the same ideas about money. Therefore you must talk about money because of different upbringing
  • Identify your negative limiting beliefs by using the acronym B.L.I.S.S
  • You need an accountability partner to keep you going

Stephen and Sonji Millet

Stephen and Sonji Millet are transformational speakers and life coaches. This couple have been through dysfunctional childhoods, multiple marriages, job displacement bankruptcy, foreclosure, behind on taxes and the challenges of co-parenting, depression, relationship friction—but individually and together they overcame ALL, by commanding themselves to TALK STRAIGHT DAMMIT!

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Quote of the day: “When you have actions that you can continue to do then you can keep moving, and as long as you get up and put one foot in front of the other, and you start doing something, you will eventually come out of it, but if you stand still, if you stand in the story instead of on the story you won’t go anywhere.”  -Sonji Millet

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Esmie’s New book: How To Embrace Challenges: Step Into Your Power:






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Show notes by Esmie Lawrence

Audio production by Brian Calkins Podcast Mechanic

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